How To Overcome Loneliness

How to Overcome loneliness as a believer...

What It Means To Feel Lonely

The dictionary defines lonely as: “lone; solitary; without company; companionless” And… “affected with, characterized by, or causing a depressing feeling of being alone; lonesome.”

By definition loneliness implies that something is missing from your life. And more specifically that you are lacking fulfillment in the area of companionship.

The problem with that is we are believers in Christ, and through Him our lives are made complete. It is not the will of God for us to experience lack in any area, whether it be finances, health, or relationships.

Our Relationship With God

Simply put, relationships are connections formed by association or involvement (emotional, blood, or otherwise). The most important relationship that we form is our relationship with our heavenly Father.

This relationship is the foundation upon which every other relationship must be built. If the foundation of our God relationship is broken, then every other relationship that follows will be unfulfilling.

It's Not Just Physical

The fact that we can have people around us and still feel lonely leads me to believe that loneliness is tied to more than just our “physical” being. It’s about our state of mind. When we begin to believe that our relationship needs aren’t being met, we start to feel alone.

So, it won’t matter if you’re active in a social club, married, or surrounded by a million adoring fans everyday. As long as you have it in your head that you need something or someone to fill your emotional voids, you are bound to experience loneliness.

It May Have Cracks In It

Let’s go back to our foundational relationship with God. Often our relationship with God has cracks in it. We aren’t spending time with him, we aren’t praying, and we certainly aren’t meditating on the word “day and night” as scripture suggests. But this is the answer for how to overcome loneliness.

"Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful." Joshua 1:8-NIV

But, instead of recognizing this and filling the foundation’s cracks with praise, worship, prayer, and meditation; we attempt to fill the voids with people, places, and things.

Some how we get it in our heads, that a husband; new boyfriend/girlfriend; or new BFF (Best Friend Forever) is what’s missing from our life; when the real source of our loneliness is our malnourished relationship with the Father.

To overcome loneliness, check your relationship with God. If it has cracks in it, and it likely will, then start filling them today.

Test The Lie. Find The Truth

Satan’s Lie: “You are alone.” This is one of the biggest lies the enemy tells us. Don’t fall for it.

God’s Truth You should make it a point to compare your fear to what’s in the word of God. Test it. In the case of loneliness, Jesus says in Matthew 28:20, “…I am with you always, even until the end of time.”

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